Top confidence hack
What is confidence, exactly? It’s actually quite difficult to define because it’s a feeling. As a general definition, it is connected to a person’s self belief and ability to succeed. It can be very hard to strike a balance, though - too much and you could be seen as arrogant, too little and it can hold you back from exciting opportunities in life, especially if you desire a change such as a big move abroad or in your career.
Confidence really is a collection of different factors that change from one person to another and most of us find ourselves in a situation at some point in our lives when we’re in need of a confidence boost.
In this post, I want to share with you a simple but effective exercise that I do with my coaching clients to help build confidence. You need a journal, pen and a quiet space to get the most out of this task.
Give yourself some time and answer the following questions:
What would the most confident version of myself be and have?
Give yourself time to really think about this and write down everything that comes to mind. Really get into the details of describing this version of yourself and don’t hold back.
What does a typical day look like in my life as the most confident version of myself?
Write out your ideal daily routine as your most confident self. What would you wear? Who would you speak to? Where would you go? How would your work environment be different? Break it down throughout your day in as much detail as possible.
What steps can I take today to step into the most confident version of myself?
Give yourself some time to really absorb everything you’ve written for the last 2 questions and write a list of at least 3 action steps you can take starting from today to get you where you want to be confidence wise. Go for it!
The most useful part of this exercise is to keep it somewhere you can go back to easily and look at it again after a few weeks or months. See how far you’ve come. Do the exercise again to elevate your confidence even further. It can be repeated as many times as you need.
This exercise has been an important starting point in helping numerous coaching clients have massive breakthroughs in their self-confidence, from asking for a promotion to quitting a job and pursuing a freelance career. Working on your self-confidence is not something that can change overnight but there are tools to help you get there. It’s all about tapping into what you’re passionate about and feeling happy and proud of who you are.